The Girl, aged 3, and taken on a farm in South Surrey. It was a photo shoot for her third birthday.
It was announced recently, that Pinky, who is the Girl’s mechanical toy Guinea Pig (and twin to another toy Guinea Pig, Purpley), is “going to have a baby”.
The Girl has a grip on the basic mechanics of how babies are made, with a few of the details missing. For instance, she has an impression that there is a baby inside every girl, just waiting to be born. We’re still talking about it.
But, she knows where she came from. Recently, I recounted some of the key events of her birth. I told her about taking her mum to the hospital. And I told her about the labour, from my perspective anyway. She asked if it hurt. And I said it did.
But, I told her about when she was born, and about my being the second person to hold her (counting the OB). I told her about seeing her turn from a greyish, to a vital pink as her heart began to pump life around her little body, without the help of the placenta. I told her about her little hands curling around my thumbs, and the absolute joy I felt because of her very existence.
“When I grow up, I’m going to have a baby, too.”
I’m not quite sure where this comes from, and it is rearing its head quite a bit lately. It doesn’t worry me. I have always positioned the whole thing to her as “IF YOU DECIDE to have a baby …” when she’s asked about the role of parenthood. I think she’s just curious about it.
But, the thing is this: IF she does decide to become a mum, I think (and it’s early days yet, I know…) she’ll make a good one. She’s got something of a nurturing spirit, even toward me, her father. And she’s encouraging, positive, and quick to celebrate the victories of others.
My preference for her of course is to become the person she needs to be, children or not. Because it seems to me that that’s what bolsters the best parents – those who have garnered enough experience to know that there is more to their existence than seeing to the existence of another.
But, let’s not get ahead of ourselves.
What’s a good name for a newborn mechanical toy Guinea Pig?